- Is there someone in your life that you love but with whom you find yourself struggling to feel good?
- Do you find yourself having the same arguments over and over again?
- Do you feel diminished and unsupported in a close relationship?
- Have you been betrayed by someone that you love?
- Is your relationship more superficial and distant than you would like?
Close personal relationships can be the best part of life when they are loving and supportive and the worst part when they become destructive. Whether it is with your partner in life, a parent, a sibling, an adult child or even a good friend, these relationships touch us at the deepest and most personal level. For this reason they can stimulate feelings that are intense and not always easy to understand or manage.
Therapy can help you to understand these complicated feelings.
- It can help you to relate to the people you care about in a way that is more satisfying and brings joy into your life.
- It can help you learn to ask for what you want in a way that will get you an honest response.
- It can help you to respond to the other person in a way that will strengthen the bond between you.
- It can help you learn to set limits and say no when you need to.
- It can help you talk about the most important (and often most difficult) issues without getting bogged down in arguments and dead ends.
- It can help you repair those moments in the relationship when you’ve said or done things that you wish you could take back.
Relationship therapy usually takes place with both people meeting together with the therapist. The therapist will help you to talk about the difficulties you are having and to find out what is behind the intense feelings that you are experiencing. It differs from individual therapy in that the focus is on the relationship rather than the individuals. Depending on the relationship and on the needs of both people, it can last from a very few sessions to a much longer term of treatment.
What can you do to strengthen the relationships that are important to you?
- When you find yourself in a repetitive argument, take a break and calm down before going on.
- If someone you love hurts you, let them know with out hitting back verbally or emotionally.
- Remind yourself that the connection between you and your family member or friend is important to nurture and preserve. Try to curb your tendency to say things that you will regret when you are angry especially if they will damage this bond.